seeking support through infertility

Recently, I was talking to a co-worker in another office about my fertility struggle. She immediately went over and grabbed another one of our co-workers and said "you have to listen to Lauren's story." The second co-worker is also struggling with infertility. She talked about the loneliness and frustration of trying to have kids and not being able to get pregnant, especially when everyone around her seems to be pregnant. I totally got it. It seems that when you are struggling to get pregnant, you get these special lenses on your eyes that magnifies all the pregnancies around you. It seems like everyone is pregnant BUT you.

And it hurts. Oh how it hurts your heart so much. You wonder what is wrong with you, what is God trying to teach you, why you are broken, why you struggle when so many people don't have to. Lots and lots of questions with very few answers. It can be debilitating. And lots of women struggling with infertility don't confide in others, preferring instead to keep their struggle quiet. I would strongly encourage those of you who are going through this without a support system to turn to those you love and trust. Share your hurts and frustrations with those you love so they can, in return, love and support you too.

We kept our difficulties getting pregnant a secret too. But finally I realized I couldn't do it anymore without more support. without more love and more prayers. The response I got from my friends and family was amazing. Their prayers pulled me through times when I didn't think I could continue to fight to have a child, when I just wanted to give up.

Let me and others pray for you, support you, and love you through your dark times. It makes a huge difference, I promise.